Structure vs control
I was talking with a good friend of mine today about how much we both like to have control in our day to day lives. I am a very organized person, and nothing brings me more joy than planning my schedule (in my green diary) and setting my goals (in my pink diary) for the coming week, every Sunday evening.
To some people this might sound excessive, and to be honest, maybe it is. But I’m currently juggling 7 different teaching positions, my coaching business and being a dog mumma (as well as the usual exercise and social life obligations).
Now I’m not saying this to brag. I’m busy, you’re busy, everyone is busy. And actually, we all have a different idea of what busy looks like for us personally, and what our optimal output is.
But we need to be mindful that structure is healthy and useful, but control can be potentially damaging, There is a fine line between being a control freak and becoming obsessive. If we cross that line then it is difficult for us to cope when things get in the way of our plans.
Plans change, they always do; that’s life! We need to ensure we are organized but also flexible, so we can take these bumps in the road in our stride.
Are you a control freak? Or do you need more organisation in your life?