What is the connection between identity and shame?

Humans hate feeling shame.

Most of us would do anything to avoid this feeling.

Including things that no longer serve us.

Why?

Because we cling on to a perceived "identity" in order to feel "adequate".

Threats to identity cause shame.

Avoiding shame brings us back to pain.

Accepting shame brings liberation.

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But what are the steps to accept the shame and live with it?
I really hate this feeling, and I'm yet to learn how to deal with it