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Start saying "I dislike (something)" rather than "I dislike people who (do something)"

For instance, you might wish to use the phrase "I dislike people who send useless emails" when criticizing a coworker's behavior.
That suggests that there are those who engage in that annoying behavior and those who do not, and you despise the latter group regardless of whatever other positive attributes they may possess.
This widespread hostility is perhaps not where it should be.
Instead of carelessly spilling hate into big areas of your perceived universe and to the people you are complaining to, you can still show how angry you are by saying: "I dislike useless emails."

You change the focus of your hatred from something permanent (a certain type of person) to something fleeting (an action).
It's a modest technique to recognize the limits of your emotions and other people's behavior.
The change in language may result in a change in perspective, which lessens the threat that the outside world (and pointless emails) may seem to you.

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