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The universe responds to your frequency.
The universe responds to your frequency. It doesn't recognize your personal desires, wants or needs. It only understands the frequency in which you are vibrating at. For example; if you are vibrating in the frequency of fear, guilt or shame you are going to attract things of a similar vibration. If you are vibrating in the frequency of love, joy and abundance, you are going to attract things that support that frequency. It's kinda like tuning into a radio station. You have to be tuning into the music you want to listen to just like you have to be tuned into the energy you want to manifest into your life. Change your mindset, it will change your life.
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hey, listen to your emotions...
Bitterness shows you where you need to heal, where you're still holding judgments on others and yourself.
Resentment shows you where you're living in the past and not allowing the present to be as it is.
Discomfort shows you that you need to pay attention right now to what is happening, because you're being given the opportunity to change, to do something different than you typically do it.
Anger shows you what you're passionate about, where your boundaries. arc, and what you believe needs to change about the world.
Disappointment shows you that you tried for something, that you did not give in to apathy, that you still care.
Guilt shows you that you're still living life in other people's expectations of what you should do.
Shame shows you that you're internalizing other people's beliefs about who you should be (or who you are) and that you need to reconnect with yourself.
Anxiety shows you that you need to wake up, right now, and that you need to be present, that you're stuck in the past and living in fear of the future.
Sadness shows you the depth of your feeling, the depth of your care for others and this world.
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SIX SENTENCES I WISH I'D READ SOONER
These hard times, this pain, these lessons - one day they'll be your strength, your awareness, your blessings.
Stop expecting honesty from people who lie to themselves.
You'll never look good trying to make someone look bad.
Save your explanations for those that are determined to understand you - give your silence to those that are determined to misunderstand you.
Don't be upset by people you don't respect.
Life is not tiring. Wanting life to be a certain way but not having the confidence to make it that way, is tiring.
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How we can begin to rebuild trust in ourselves:
• Sit down and write a list of the things that we are doing that we don't want to be doing. For example: This could be our way of eating/sleeping, our work, who we interact with, how often we're on social media, what we do with our free time, etc.
•For each thing that we have written, come up with a way that we can either a) improve that thing or, b) completely change it. For example: If we decided that we want to spend less time on social media, we can make a plan to set limits on the "screen time" settings of our phone, we plan to log out of out of all our accounts so that we need to log in to use them and we can decide that we are going to spend that time reading a specific book instead.
• Take the necessary initial action towards one of the plans that we have come up with. Often times, starting with the easiest plan can be best for this. For example: To initiate the plan above, we would then go and set the limits on "screen time", log out of our accounts, go and get the book and put it bedside our bed (or go and borrow it from a library/order it from online/print the pdf)
• Follow through with the plan every day. Consistency over a couple weeks will create new habits and when we create new habits, we prove to ourselves that we can trust ourselves. For example, follow our screen time limits, stay logged out of our accounts ascide from when we specified in our plan that we will use the app, continue to read our book.
• Once we feel good about this and have created a new habit, it's time to move onto the next plan on our list. We can refine it if we need to, ensuring that it is realistic for us to do, but also not selling ourselves short.
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My advice to you is that if you wanna do something totally different and reinvent a little part of yourself but you're afraid people will think you're trying too hard: just do it anyway.
In high school, there was a girl who wore heels every single day and I was so envious. I wanted to wear heels but I was a huge tomboy growing up and no one thought of me as feminine I was worried people would think I was being "fake," or trying too hard.
But one day I wore a pair and I got a lot of remarks, not all of them nice. And then I wore another and another until one day a girl said to me "I wish I could wear heels like you and the girl I envied but I couldn't pull it off."
And I realized I'd become known for wearing heels and it was just a thing I did now and nobody questioned it.
I know this is such a small thing but I have held on to this lesson throughout my young adulthood because it's proven true again and again with bigger things like my career and my sexuality
When you first step out of the idea of yourself other people have accepted or invented and express a part of you that they don't know, it's scary. People like to think they know you, and challenging their perception of you threatens them.
That doesn't mean you don't deserve to express who you are.
You're not fake or trying too hard just because you decide to share a new side of yourself!!!
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Want to know why you feel bothered by what other people think about you?
Often it's because we don't have a strong sense of who we are, or we believe what they've said (or at least part of it).
If someone told me I was selfish I would laugh. It wouldn't affect me. I know myself well and I know I am not a selfish person. But if I didn't know myself? I'd start wondering if I was selfish if other people thought I was selfish, ruminating and spiraling on things I'd done that could be perceived as selfish.
Getting to know yourself on a deep and intimate level is how we protect ourselves from other people's opinions of us.
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When you just can't love yourself, just work on giving yourself basic respect.
When you just can't practice self care, aim for basic hygiene and keeping yourself alive.
When you just can't have positive thoughts, focus on ignoring the negative ones.
When you just can't quit those bad habits and unhealthy coping mechanisms, be sure to take care of yourself afterwards.
When you just can't make yourself eat enough, aim for something three times a day, even if it's something small.
When you just can't stop binge eating, just do your best to forgive yourself and focus on something else instead of dwelling on it for any longer.
Not everyone is at a point where they can recover, and so thinking about recovery can be intimidating and make them shut down, because they just feel like they're nowhere close to getting better so they might as well not bother. There needs to be more advice on dragging yourself through the days. Self care to the bare minimum. Aiming for "feeling okay with yourself" or "feeling less awful about yourself" rather than loving yourself. Baby steps.
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7 Things to Stop Worrying About
1. Other peoples' expectations of you. At the end of the day, it's your life not their life - so just be yourself and set and go for, your own goals.
2. What other people say and do. It's not up to us to control other people, or to change how they act, or to make their decisions.
3. Expecting perfection. It's unrealistic to aim for perfection. You'll just be disappointed and discouraged all the time.
4. Getting it wrong. We all make mistakes in our journey through this life. That's simply part of learning, and being normal and human.
5. Fitting in. Although social skills matter, and it's good to think of others, you also need to be yourself - a special, unique individual. Beware - conformity can kill individuality.
6. Being right. This is highly over-rated and can cause a lot of stress. If you're confident and real you don't need to prove you're right!
7. Life being out of control. At the end of the day, there's not much we can control - except our own reactions and our attitudes to problems. So change what you can - and then relax and enjoy life.
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Your future self loves you. They will look through old photos of you with affection, not disgust, or embarrassment. They wish they could tell you stories of your future, of how much you'll change, of the people you'll meet, of how you'll eventually learn to accept yourself, then love yourself. They will read your diary entries and poems and favorite lyrics, heart aching, tears in their eyes. if only you knew...
Your future self loves you. If only they could show you. They are living proof. You'll turn out okay after all. They wish they were there to console you, dance with you, and make you write it a hundred times: "I AM LOVED". They will listen to playlists you made, just to experience you again. They will write you a letter - of forgiveness, longing, and reassurance. You will never read it. But you will know.
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Every time I am really unmotivated, I ask myself what kind of a person I want to be.
Do I want to be hardworking, kind, determined, and intelligent?
Do I want to create something meaningful, to make a difference?
Do I want to be the person others look up to?
And then I ask myself what I can do to become that person a little bit more.
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HOW TO BOUNCE BACK
Bad times don't last. Things always get better.
Other people can help if you let them.
Unhelpful thinking makes you feel more upset. Don't just dwell on the negatives.
Nobody is perfect - not you or others.
Concentrate on the positives (no matter how small) and laugh when you can.
Everybody experiences sadness, changes, hurt, failure, rejection, and setbacks sometimes. They are a normal part of life. Try not to personalize them.
Blame fairly - how much of what happened was because of you, others, bad luck, or circumstances?
Accept the things you can't change (but try to change what you can first)
Catastrophizing exaggerates your worries. Don't believe the worst possible picture.
Keep things in perspective. It is one part of your life and doesn't have to spoil everything else.
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Preliminary Steps
- Choose classes that interest you. That way studying doesn't feel like slave labor. If you don't want to learn, then I can't help you.
- Make some friends. See steps 12, 13, 23, 24.
General Principles
Study less, but study better.
Avoid Autopilot Brain at all costs.
Vague is bad. Vague is a waste of your time.
Write it down.
Suck it up, buckle down, get it done.
Plan of Attack Phase I: Class
Show up. Everything will make a lot more sense that way, and you will save yourself a lot of time in the long run.
Take notes by hand. I don't know the science behind it, but doing anything by hand is a way of carving it into your memory. Also, if you get bored you will doodle, which is still a thousand times better than ending up on stumbleupon or something.
Phase II: Study Time
Get out of the library. The sheer fact of being in a library doesn't fill you with knowledge. Eight hours of Facebooking in the library is still eight hours of Facebooking. Also, people who bring food and blankets to the library and just stay there during finals week start to smell weird. Go home and bathe. You can quiz yourself while you wash your hair.
Do a little every day, but don't let it be your whole day. "This afternoon, I will read a chapter of something and do half a problem set. Then, I will watch an episode of South Park and go to the aym" ALWAYS BEATS "Starting right now, I am going to read as much as possibly can...oh wow, now it's midnight, I'm on page five, and my room reeks of ramen and dysfunction."
Give yourself incentive. There's nothing worse than a gaping abyss of study time. If you know you're going out in six hours, you're more likely to get something done.
Allow friends to confiscate your phone when they catch you playing Angry Birds. Oh and if you think you need a break, you probably don't.
Phase III: Assignments
Stop highlighting. Underlining is supposed to keep you focused, but it's actually a one-way ticket to Autopilot Brain. You zone out, look down, and suddenly you have five pages of neon green that you don't remember reading. Write notes in the margins instead.
Do all your own work. You get nothing out of copying a problem set. It's also shady.
Read as much as you can. No way around it. Stop trying to cheat with Sparknotes.
Be a smart reader, not a robot (lol). Ask yourself: What is the author trying to prove? What is the logical progression of the argument? You can usually answer these questions by reading the introduction and conclusion of every chapter. Then, pick any two examples/anecdotes and commit them to memory (write them down). They will help you reconstruct the author's argument later on.
Don't read everything, but understand everything that you read. Better to have a deep understanding of a limited amount of material, than to have a vague understanding of an entire course. Once again: Vague is bad. Vague is a waste of your time.
Bullet points. For essays, summarizing, everything.
Phase IV: Reading Period (Review Week)
Once again: do not move into the library. Eat, sleep, and bathe.
If you don't understand it, it will definitely be on the exam. Solution: textbooks; the internet.
Do all the practice problems. This one is totally tiger mom.
People are often contemptuous of rote learning. Newsflash: even at great intellectual bastions like Harvard, you will be required to memorize formulas, names and dates. To memorize effectively: stop reading your list over and over again. It doesn't work. Say it out loud, write it down. Remember how you made friends? Have them quiz you, then return the favor.
Again with the friends: ask them to listen while you explain a difficult concept to them. This forces you to articulate your understanding. Remember, vague is bad.
Go for the big picture. Try to figure out where a specific concept fits into the course as a whole. This will help you tap into Big Themes - every class has
Big Themes - which will streamline what you need to know. You can learn a million facts, but until you understand how they fit together, you're missing the point.
Phase V: Exam Day
- Crush exam. Get A.
How to Study Like a Harvard Student: A Thread
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Once we awaken spiritually, are we then obligated to help others do the same?
The blooming of the flower attracts the bees. The flower doesn’t need to call the bees. They are coming by themselves. There is no need to plan anything. Everything is unfolding without any mistake by the laws of Nature. If you are in alignment, your intentions-decisions- actions will follow, without any question like this in the mind.
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Your daily reminder that traumatized brains are literally physically different from a normal brain. Repeated trauma and abuse have severe, long-term effects.
If you have difficulty maintaining social bonds, concentrating, sleeping, focusing, or regulating your emotions, it's because you're traumatized. If you're not happy with yourself, if you worry you're a burden, you're toxic, that you don't matter, it's because you're traumatized. If you struggle to make it out of bed, think straight, get motivated or distracted, it's because you're traumatized.
Have you ever been told you're too dramatic, or emotional? Has anyone wondered why you trust no one? Why do you analyze every person's smallest behavior? Why you're paranoid about the most minor signs of history repeating itself? It's because you're traumatized.
And it is NOT your fault.
If you feel like your trauma is too much to bear and need a helping hand, our practitioners are always here for you! corespirit.com/services?concernCategorySlugs=…
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Nobody wants to tell you why discipline is so important
Discipline is the strongest form of self-love
It is ignoring current pleasures for bigger rewards to come
It's loving yourself enough to give yourself everything you've ever wanted
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WHEN YOU ARE SAD OR UPSET, ALWAYS REMEMBER THESE POINTS
• Pain is part of growing.
• Everything in life is temporary.
• Worrying and complaining changes nothing.
• Your scars are symbols of your strength.
• Every little struggle is a step forward.
• Other people's negativity is not your problem.
• What's meant to be will eventually be.
• The best thing you can do is keep going.
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15 things I tell myself when I don't want to work/study
You are very lucky and privileged to have access to almost unlimited knowledge and you should appreciate that.
Be one of those rare people who step over their insecurities and succeed.
Only 5 minutes. Only today. (Repeat it 5 minutes later and every day).
You will know what to do as soon as you start. Ideas never appear from inactivity
Make yourself proud.
One hour every day doesn't feel much but it's 365 hours a year. You can't not succeed after so much work.
It's not supposed to be easy. Nothing good is easy.
If you had a child to look after, you'd make them study because you want them to accomplish something. Don't you love yourself?
"Everything you want is on the other side of fear" George Adair
Every mistake increases our chance to make progress.
If you give up now, you'll have to return to this later anyway but from the very beginning.
Let the process be your result.
Every moment you thought your fears would suppress you has become the time you made it.
Maybe you think you can never find something to use your skills and mindset for. But if you continue investing in what matters to you, it will find its way out there.
I allow you to think globally. You have a right to the boldest dream.
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A little secret from a therapist:
If you're invited to the table, someone sees your worth. Be present without asking “why me." You do not need to question your value when people show you how relevant you are. Imposter syndrome will reduce your ability to be present in spaces that you worked hard to get into. Stop minimizing your achievements by pretending that things happened out of nowhere.
Repeat After Me:
I am worthy because I am here.
I am worthy because of my dedication.
I am worthy because of what I've sacrificed to become who I am.
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