Want to know why you feel bothered by what other people think about you?

Often it's because we don't have a strong sense of who we are, or we believe what they've said (or at least part of it).

If someone told me I was selfish I would laugh. It wouldn't affect me. I know myself well and I know I am not a selfish person. But if I didn't know myself? I'd start wondering if I was selfish if other people thought I was selfish, ruminating and spiraling on things I'd done that could be perceived as selfish.

Getting to know yourself on a deep and intimate level is how we protect ourselves from other people's opinions of us.

#general