Wow, I absolutely agree with you. I also do not strive for the love for myself that everyone around me is promoting. I accept myself, but don’t like and do not strive to do it. Lack of love for myself encourages me to improve myself, and not to leave everything is as it is. The problem is just how to keep a balance between just not loving yourself and hating yourself. Can you please give any advice on how to successfully maintain this balance?
Hi Emma!
Sorry for such a late reply, I hadn't been active on Corespirit for a bit. I love that you strive for acceptance over love - that's amazing! The biggest bit of advice I can give here is rather than liking/loving/hating the things you do/say/accomplish - instead - focus on liking yourself for trying at all. This looks like working on building the trust for yourself that you are always doing the best you can in each moment. Your "best" doesn't mean it looks good, it means that given the resources, emotions, fears, thoughts, and information that you had at the time, you acted in the best way you could have at that moment. You don't get to look back on the sweet girl who was doing her best and shame her now that you have more information. That's not fair!
Hope that helps :)