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Overworking. ​ Overachieving. ​ Overeating. ​ Over-drinking. ​ Over-caffeinating. Overcompensating. ​ And just plain overdoing.

Jul 24, 2023
Reading time 4 min.

Those are just some of the ways I’ve seen people distract themselves so they don’t have to face the parts of their life (and themselves) that they would rather not see.🫣

Most of those people also have zero boundaries between their work life and their home life and as much as they blame the job for their inability to slow down or make a change, the truth is it’s easier for them to drown out those feelings of emptiness if they’re constantly “busy” and have something outside of themselves to blame for what they’re feeling on the inside. 🤫

And as exhausting as the busy-ness can be..the discomfort of acknowledging that maybe they’re just not as fulfilled or as happy as they would like to be feels even more debilitating.😔

The truth is most of them are worn out from spending their days constantly putting out one fire after another and then having to wash, rinse and repeat the exact same drill the very next day. ​ 😖

But they’re too afraid to make a change. ​ And most don’t even know where to begin.

Between the fear and the uncertainty, most are too overwhelmed to even try. ​ ​ 😰

If that’s where you are right now…don’t worry….I got you covered. ​ I put together a roadmap for creating your OWN self-liberation. And it’s actually much easier to do than you think 🌟

❶ Don’t be afraid to be yourself - actually, I DARE you to be authentic! And the best way to be authentic is to tune in to your own values and beliefs and then make those a priority when making decisions for your future. Live your own version of a good life, not one that’s designed to meet someone else's expectations. 🌟

❷ Let yourself be heard - even when it feels a little scary. ​ Your opinions matter, and it's OK to voice them, even if they invite disagreements. The disagreement is actually how growth happens. Some of the biggest shifts I’ve made in my own thinking and beliefs came about as a result of other people disagreeing with me. ​ Even if I didn’t agree with their way of thinking - it helped me see things from a different perspective which always prompts growth. ​ (I’m not talking about unsolicited life opinions or trolls here just to be clear - I mean genuine conversations based in mutual respect.) ​ 💬

❸ Forget perfectionism. It's not about your life (or you) being flawless, it's about embracing the beauty of the imperfections and learning to love them for what they bring to light. Mistakes are just stepping stones to more powerful decisions. 🌱

❹ Draw your boundaries. Protect your time, energy, and emotions. Remember, saying 'NO' is a complete sentence - and you don't need to explain or justify why you’re saying no. 🚧

❺ Spend time with your passion and your daydreams. Let your mind run free with imagination - the same way you did when you were a kid. What are those dreams you've been sidelining? Are they still calling you - maybe it’s time to answer the call and chase what truly sets your soul on fire. 🔥

❻ Prioritize self-care. We’ve all heard this before BUT I’ll say it again anyway. ​ You can’t pour from an empty cup. ​ You deserve to nourish your mind, body, and soul. Remember, self-care isn't selfish; it's essential. ​ And for the people who you’ll benefit as a result of being able to show up as your best self…it’s actually self-LESS. 🧘‍♀️

❼ Don't fear conflict. You don't have to love conflict or confrontation, but walking away from it isn’t the answer either. Especially if the reason you’re walking away is to “keep the peace” or keep everyone around you “happy.” ​ Conflict can lead to constructive change but you have to be willing to walk towards it and learn to navigate it in a positive and healthy manner so you can grow from it. 🌈

❽ Celebrate YOU! Your achievements deserve recognition. No matter how big or small, be proud of yourself for what you’ve accomplished. ​ Humility doesn’t mean minimizing yourself or you're successed. ​ So stop downplaying your success. You've earned it (and no man would ever downplay their success)! 🏆

❾ Believe in your worth. You are more than enough just as you are. Treat yourself with the same love, compassion and kindness you would show to others if you truly want to build unshakeable confidence and self-esteem. 💪

𝟏𝟬 Seek help when needed. It's OK to ask for help. A coach, counselor or mentor can guide you through this empowering journey. I wouldn’t be nearly as far on my journey without the guidance of my own mentors and coaches and I’m proud to admit that I care enough about myself and my growth to invest in myself. ​ I don’t see it as a symbol of shame even when others have judged me for it - I see it as a constant representation of the belief in my future self. 🙏

I’ve always loved the quote “it's not about the destination, but the journey”. And the further I get on my own journey the more that holds true for me. ​ So always remember to focus on the journey and the process - and know that every step you take is a victory. Celebrate it! You've got this, ladies! 💖

As always,

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Thank you so much. And please feel free to screenshot whatever you find helpful, I'm glad it resonated!

Philip Ebuluofor11mo ago

This is full of wisdom. Contemplating screenshotting some part for my personal study.