Afsheen Shah

Ever wonder why you’re doing all the “right” things, putting in the work and still watching other people get the promotion, raise or reward that you just spent the entire last year gunning for?

It’s not because they’re smarter, better connected or someho…

Are you feeling trapped in the never-ending cycle of pleasing others, sacrificing your dreams, and losing touch with your true self?

Are you sick and tired of trying to maintain that picture perfect image of the woman that everybody wants you to be and k…

Being a good human doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be a “good girl” (or good boy!) I would even argue that being a perpetual good girl or good boy can actually stand in the way of your being a good human.

Sound crazy? Let me tell you why.

Being a…

Those are just some of the ways I’ve seen people distract themselves so they don’t have to face the parts of their life (and themselves) that they would rather not see.🫣
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Most of those people also have zero boundaries between their work life and their ho…

I’ve always enjoyed running. I love the feeling of being able to just lace on my shoes and go. And the way my mind runs free as my feet carry the rest of my body forward.

The sensation of each step hitting the pavement has felt like pure pain at times a…

I used to think the game of life was rigged against me. And that life was just something that was happening “to me”, instead of through me.

It was a very self-defeating way to live and played a huge role in my health issues after my physical body started…

4 Ways Your Inability To Say No To Others Could Be Destroying Your Happiness & Health
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1️⃣ Missed Opportunities
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Every time you say yes to one thing you’re saying no to something else that could be more aligned with what you actually want to do. Ove…

Earlier this year my health took a backseat to deadlines in my day job and a new slew of goals for my business.

My stress levels and caffeine consumption were at an all time high while the quality of my sleep, recovery and nutrition were at an all time l…

Painful experiences are a part of life. Very few people (if any) escape life without having painful experiences. And for some people, painful experiences can serve as a powerful motivator to change their life for the better. Those people have truly master…

You’re my good girl, I’m so lucky to have a good girl like you as my girlfriend. It’s all I’ve ever wanted.” ​ He said those words to me almost every night while we were together.
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And then cheated on me with a beautiful, blond voluptuous stripper as he …

I don’t subscribe to the new trend against positivity. I also don’t believe in the concept of “toxic positivity”. 🤫

Personally - I don’t think the words toxic and positive belong together. And I’m not in favor of referring to any form of positivity …

So you’ve made power moves in your professional life and didn’t just climb the corporate ladder - you jumped up 2 rungs at a time. ​
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And now you’re at the top. ​ Looking down. ​ And suddenly the view from top doesn’t look so great.
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Instead of seeing b…

I wish I hadn’t been such a “good girl” when I was younger.

I wish I would’ve broken the rules more often. Studied a little less. Allowed myself to have more fun. Put travel before money. Worried less about debt and more about experiences. Valued pl…

“Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.“ - Lao Tzu

In order to master yourself, you have to be able to master your thoughts.

But sometimes it’s not so much about changing a thought as much as it is about changing and redefining …

One of the best ways I’ve found to manage stress and increase productivity is by managing my thoughts and my mindset.
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Learning to cultivate an empowering mindset has maximized my results (both personally and professionally!) while minimizing the time, s…

How different do you think your life would be if you focused more on the things that ARE working out for you and less on the ones that aren’t?

Since the time we are little we’re taught to focus on where we fall short.

In school, papers mark what you got…

It’s true what they say, sometimes you have to just be in the moment. ​ And not just the good ones that fill your heart with joy and gratitude - but the bad ones also. ​
The ones that fill your heart with an unexplainable sadness and melancholy.
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As grat…

I have a love/hate relationship with motivation. ​
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Don’t get me wrong, I am all for inspiring and motivating others. ​ It’s part of my brand after all and most of my own success has been - at least in part - inspired or motivated by advice in the books …

I firmly believe that if we truly want to heal our body, we need to start with our mind.
I was about 16 years old the first time I experienced my first episode of auto-immune issues. I was put on various medications which temporarily relieved some of my s…

A common complaint I hear from clients is they feel as if they are lacking meaningful connections. They don’t want to spend time in conversations that are just “surface level”. They want depth, meaning and substance.

I get it, I crave those things also…

The tears started to well up the minute I finished my mascara. Shit. Now?! This mascara isn’t even waterproof was my first thought. But the more I tried to hold them in, the more they started to spill. Before I knew it..the dam that I had kept closed for …

Here’s some questions to journal on if you want to figure out what’s holding you back.

Who are you now?
Be honest with yourself on this one. You can’t become everything you want to be if you don’t know who you are at this moment.

Who do you want to be?
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1️⃣ You have a hard time holding clear and consistent boundaries.

2️⃣ You feel guilty saying no when others ask for your help, even if it means putting your own needs to the side.

3️⃣ You feel even guilder asking others to meet your needs.

4️⃣ You get …

Every now and then a picture will show up in my memories of a younger, thinner, more beautiful.. and immensely quieter and lonelier version of me. She wears the same smile as I do now but back then the smile rarely made it down to her heart. And the laug…