Neuro Science: The Super Powers of Healing and the Magic of Children
Super Powers in healing,
Recently, we've been listening to the HEAL SUMMIT, listening to Gregg Braden, and Dr. Joe and last night Jim Kwick the author of Limitless, and I remembered these early days working with the deep psyche and just how powerful our brain truly is. And more importantly when the brain is unencumbered with limited beliefs its pretty amazing what can happen.
When it's all in alignment with the heart, the mind, and the body...as children are, we have a powerful tool for recovery and just about anything else we want to focus on too.
Jim said last night : Great power comes with Great Responsibility and Great Responsibility comes with Great Power.
It suddenly reminded me of a client I'd worked with easily 20 + years ago now... and there were many places where one might think, miraculous recovery, and yet as NeuroScience sets a new course for us in Quantum Physics and the Human Capacity to do so much more... I recalled this story:
At the time I didn't really know what would come, having worked in Palliative Care for some time, I was pretty used to the life and death challenges for families and loved ones, and so as a colleague shared this with me, she was hoping I would do some Tapes for this boy to listen to, and perhaps it would help him. She shared the events of his accident and yes they were really compelling, and so I asked her what was happening with him at this point.
He was a 6 year old with 3d Degree burns to 60% of his body and not expected to live. She was a distant relative to the boys father, I think. That's how she knew the deeper details of what had happened and how serious this little guys life was. That might have been why the doctors allowed me to do TAPES for him, (yes tapes not mp3s) At that time, they felt he would not survive even the next 10 days.
I thought if he was going to die, he could let the anger at the accident that caused all this, be left to his parents and police and he could forgive the three boys that sprayed bbq lighter on him and through a match at him. A neighbour saw, and got to him and quickly rolled him in a carpet and put the fire out, and he was flown down to Sick Children's into the burn unit. I know it sounds crazy to suggest that be the place to start, yet if he was going to die, then doing so without the energy of anger at others seemed a critical place to start...to me anyway...so that was the first tape. Letting his parents and the police deal with these boys and he could let it go, let them go, forgive them and let mom and dad handle anything further. Then he could focus 100% on getting better. And 10 days later he was still alive.
I began to follow the clues from his nurses and doctors. Whatever they suggested I would look for ways to shift it into suggestions for healing and he might not have followed it either, but he did. That says a lot about the human spirit and it's desire to not just live, but thrive, even through intense moments that life throws at us.
That was August, the week before the kids were due back at school, and so I found myself doing a series of tapes for him, I used his NAME in the guided visualizations. and even through the deep medication he made some inner choices, shifts and kept on going.
He was on monitors at Sick Kids and so the nurses could see his blood gases and heart rates would all level out and drop when he was listening to the tapes. (it was the first time I had monitors to observe what was going on in the body when in deep relaxation, deep trance, deep guided visualization, meditation, hypnotic trance and it was wonderful to hear the tapes were actually helping him relax, remain calm and they used them often)
He had severe burns to his left hand and the tendons were exposed and damaged, so physiotherapy was about to give up, “that won’t get better- been exposed to the air much too long"
So, taking my clue I did a tape of he and I mountain biking and we had to use the gears on the bike to brake, and shift, and in the deep trance state, he moved his hand! The nurses saw the movement and got pretty excited and that kept the team focused on getting his hand working again.
Eventually they started skin graphs to which the docs said, “these won’t work, he’s too badly burned, infections will be hard for his body to handle”
So I did a tape with little paint brushes and hands that would reach out to each other from the surface of the skin to the new skin, and they painted special glue onto the two surfaces one red, one blue, and when they came together it was a beautiful purple, and then the hands CLASPED onto each other. He had very few rejections and zero infections. We were on a roll. At this time a doctor sent a second skin suit for him, it was the latest in this new technology. Things were just flowing into this boy from all places, and with his prognosis so limited, his doctors accepted it all.
They shared he had a lot of pain and discomfort and so we created a ROOM inside his mind, he could go inside when the pain was too HOT and turn all the RED switches to blue. Even the hard to reach ones he could float up and get them all. Turn them all blue.
I reminded him often 'his body knew who it was in it's "healthy" state'. It knew himself fully and what it wanted to do, to grow up. It had its own intentions, and he could remember even right now, what it felt like to be healthy and whole. In fact it was only just a few days ago he was in that state, and that for his whole life already he had known himself as fully healthy. This was something completely new and his body wanted to be itself again and knew how to do that.
He was continuing to "remember himself" RE-MEMBER himself to his own template - his remembered self, that was already whole and just there around him
At the wonderful age of 6, we believe in magic, heck Santa Clause is still pretty real. The tooth fairy too. Probably could fly if I really wanted to...
I reminded him too, no matter what challenges he might face, he would always know that he could do whatever he set his mind to. I also suggested to his mom that he continue to use the tapes at home, whenever he needed a reminder of just how truly powerful he really is. All of this continued to future pace his recovery, his full recovery that his body was working every day towards that . And it was future pacing his parents to believe it was all possible too
I had been in hospitals in palliative care for many years, so I also knew when it was with children, well any patient really, nurses and doctors are doing their rounds and parents and family members tend to reach for a moment to talk to them. Often it's over the patients bed. With children, they don't really know what the doctor is saying, however, they can read their mother and fathers "energy" and make decisions from that, so I asked this boys mom to ensure they talked to the medical team outside the boys room. When we are healing, it's often best to let the body and mind have complete rest from what is happening around us, and leave stress, worry and anxiety to those that love us. This way the 100% focus can be shifted to healing and not the forced prognosis that at best, offers opinion based on collective experiences - there's always the exception and we can chose to be the exception.
We did lots of other things on the tapes too. One was flying a small plane from the ground with a remote, another time flying a kite, running and moving muscles and limbs...remembering ...remembering....remembering all the movements, the muscles would make to do these things, and picturing himself in his future ... doing all the things he remembered doing.
I had to go to Toronto the last week of October and they were starting the skin graphs , I'd sent the tapes in however, I was nervous for him...on my return they shared the results were promising, the doctors were pleased.
He went home at Christmas that same year, in just a few months time, the boy that wasn't going to live 10 days, had chosen to recover
January came and I had a presentation to do for Palliative Care, to RN's on their Professional Development Day. About 250 nurses sat in the crowded conference room, they "had to be there". They looked exhausted, a little grey around the eyes...overworked and here to listen to a number of dreary presentations because they had to... I started into my presentation on Palliative Care and realized a few were starting to nod off, and tossed it. Instead
I chose to share Cody’s story, with the same excitement and enthusiasm , the child like wonder at this boys creativity, and they began to sit up , a few nodded, recognizing the mechanics of "healing ". You see, we had taken direction from the teams and what they were worried about and reframed it, taking it as the next place we had to go, and facing down the dragons with a 6 year old boys own map of his reality. And this little guy did it. Three of the nurses came up to me after and excitedly shared they were his nurses! And they used to go in and listen to the recordings too! They were the ones that shared the monitors and how the tapes really had helped him rest and stay still while his body healed
They also shared that two helicopter pilots had come in with 3Degree burns to their hands, and Cody would go in each day and share with them how to turn their switches to blue!
He’ll be in his 20’s now, and I had reminded him often, he would one day be as tall as his dad, and that he could keep one tiny scar if he wanted to remind himself of his own incredible super powers.
Looking back on this now, and especially after the recent Healing Summit, I realized I had closed the space between myself and Cody and we worked in a kind of sacred out of time place, it was the sacred space between he and I - soul to soul, just holding space, where he could reach into who he truly was, and we could play and do things and he could heal while we did it. Just for a time he remembered being 6 and without all this pain and his body remembered too
The family moved to another town and started life again. It was a good decision for all of them.
After this time with Cody , I had many other children who somehow got referred to me, and tapes would go forth helping their little beings find the strength to get through health challenges. I tell you this, after every tape was completed and turned over, I wondered if it was the last one, if he might have already died and he hadn't .
It's a long time ago now, and of course without the computers to save the recordings, the tapes are long gone. Still my memory of this particular boy - it was a gift to me - it encouraged me to go further and deeper into hypnosis and adding NLP and studying Milton Erickson...and now I understand a little more of what Cody and I were doing way back there. We were just giving ourselves permission to do impossible things and it worked. Daring , really daring to go beyond the limitations of an incredible trauma into a world where healing became optional , a matter of choice .