“I don’t have traumas to heal” or “I am afraid of my past traumas” OR Here’s why RPT is REALLY for everyone
RPT work focuses on healing traumas, true, and many people think either that they don’t have traumas to heal, or that it will be too painful to work with their traumas.
Let’s tackle these two concerns one by one.
“I don’t have traumas to heal” or “I have had traumas but I have dealt with them”
We focus on healing traumas in RPT, but that is the method, the goal is to recover natural resource states like happiness, love, joy, confidence, well being, clarity, silence and calmness, freedom to create in our life and many many more!! Who among us couldn’t use a lot more of these states? (I use the word states because when they are recovered they are not momentary highs like in other techniques, bu they are in our life to stay, permanently)
The word trauma evokes images of car accidents or abuse and violence or the death of a loved one. These make us feel powerless and with little control of our own life.
While these may be big T traumas, there are 2 other kinds of traumas (another word for traumas is experiences) : traumas we go through in everyday life, like small t traumas like for instance:
Conflicts with significant others or children
Conflict with supervisor/boss or colleagues
Abrupt or extended relocation/move
Planning a wedding
Starting a new job
Having or adopting a child
Financial worries or difficulty
Expensive and unplanned home repairs
We tend to minimize the impact of these traumas on our life, our self worth, our health, both physical and psychological, but they stack up and they need to be dealt with to be balanced, happier, confident.
In addition they often are the “effect” of earlier traumas that happened in childhood or earlier, during gestation or in our ancestral line, and clearing the emotional impact of those earlier “cause” traumas (I use “” because it seems that there is a causative effect although it’s not proven) also clears the impact on our emotional, psychological and physical well-being of the traumas we want to consciously heal in the first place.
This brings me to the second kind of trauma that almost everyone experiences: childhood, gestational, birth and ancestral traumas. These are often unconscious and they need a technique RPT to be made conscious and healed, and when they are healed, our life changes profoundly. Everyone of the points in our gestation including birth holds the key to clearing 50+ even hundreds of beliefs that hold us back, that make us feel bad about ourselves and our life.
You can easily see why even though the word trauma can have connotations that at first glance don’t seem to apply to everyone, they actually happen to each and everyone of us, and the healing of these holds the key to your well-being and to the life of your dreams, unhampered by your limiting beliefs, negative emotions and repeating patterns that you experience every day and you can’t find the cause of.
“I am afraid of my past traumas” or “it will be too painful”
RPT is gentle, you don’t have to talk about your issues like in other therapies, and it’s fast. The emotion that you feel while doing RPT is a distant shadow of the emotion that you are afraid of feeling and often it’s not personal because it doesn’t belong to you but to an ancestor. This is really a case where the only thing to be afraid of is your fear.
As I said you won’t need to talk about your issue if you don’t want to, it’s not necessary at all, you will feel a 5% of the original emotion or less for a few minutes (as opposed to long hours of traditional therapy or other emotional therapies that make you feel the emotions full force and retraumatize you and that can also cause abreactions) the instinct and when you try to think back to the trauma the emotional charge won’t be there anymore and will never come back.
If you want to be happier, confident, recapture the serenity and joy you had in your childhood or that you never felt in your life but it’s buried inside of you under all these negative experiences try a session