Thank you so much for this article! These are really correct and helpful words. It may sound strange, but I don't seem to be quite sure if I want to be confident in myself. Let me explain. It seems to me that the image of an insecure and squeezed girl somehow protects me. People see me as a shy girl, so they are kind and condescending to me. It even seems to me that they love me only for my modesty and silence. I want to be confident, I missed so much in my life because of my insecurity, but I'm afraid if I become more confident and change, then people will stop loving me and treating me well. Maybe you could give me some advice on this please?