If Not Now, Then When?
We have just past the anniversary of the first lockdown in the UK, and what can only be described as a very interesting and unusual year for most people, it wouldn’t be unrealistic for you to think that life in general seems to be out of control and nothing has really made much sense over the past year, other than to suggest that Covid-19 has been a catalyst that has led to a chain reaction of innumerable unforeseen changes across the world.
When looking at the big picture of life you can easily become overwhelmed, and when this happens I always suggest reducing your focus down to what is going on in your life, and use that as a starting point, and then slowly expand your awareness out from there.
The end of a year is always seen as a time to reflect on what has occurred in your life. What you’ve achieved and what you haven’t, the progress and changes you made or didn’t make. The lessons you learnt and how they’ve benefitted you.
No matter how well you’ve done, there is always room to improve and if you didn’t hit your goals, your dreams and desires, then what are you going to do differently going forward, so that they can become a reality?
Everyday is an opportunity to make a fresh start, you don’t need to wait for a new year.
Every moment is your chance to do something different. To reach beyond the known, to tap into your deepest resources and create a future that takes your life to the next level, if that’s what you want.
We have no limits, other than the ones we impose on ourselves, so if you do have dreams and desires, the question to ask is….
“What’s holding you back”
“If not now, then when?”
When I decided to change my life, I didn’t know where to start. I’d spent 25 years building up a dairy of over 400 cows, which were considered the best of their breed in the country. I manufactured 7 dairy products that were distributed nationally. I also owned a gym and had a small grocery store. There was all the staff that I employed, and 2 daughters still at school and my marriage to a husband who had no intentions of moving anywhere new.
There never seemed to be the right time to close or sell my businesses and move on.
But we are the creators of our own reality. Yes outside influences can affect your plans, but that is the beauty of being the maker of your own reality.
You have the blueprint and can change and adapt it as you go along.
Every moment is yours to experience differently, whether it’s through your thoughts, your feelings, your actions or a combination of all three. You are the thinker of your thoughts and control how you want to feel and what actions you want to take.
No one can control your thoughts (unless you give them control), so the more passionate you are about what you want, the greater the possibility becomes of achieving the dreams and visions you have.
My vision of what I wanted was so real. When I finally started to take the steps that would move me closer to that vision, the people and information I needed would come into my life, and because I knew what I needed, I recognised them for what they were.
I didn’t stop to think if I was capable of achieving my vision, I just knew what I wanted. The only restriction or limit I put on myself was an estimated length of time of 5 years to make my vision happen and in the end I did it in 3 years.
I sold my businesses, moved country and continent, found new schools, a place to live and a job to keep things ticking over until I knew what it was I wanted to do with my new life.
Don’t rinse and recycle old thoughts and ideas. Dig deep within you to uncover your greatest desires. Give yourself permission to acknowledge and own them.
Your reality is yours to create, but if you don’t know what it is you want, then you won’t recognise the opportunities that will show up and move you closer to creating that reality.
Don’t hesitate, and procrastinate, don’t over analyze and question. Don’t be a perfectionist. No matter what you do it will be perfect in the end, because it will be what you want.
As all the Guru’s say, imperfect action is better than no action. So if you don’t start now…. then when?
You don’t have to break your life up into years, your life is constant and continuous and even if you don’t make a good start, every day is an opportunity to correct the incorrect and keep moving forward.
This may all seem like a big scary concept. Visualizing big dreams and then believing you have the ability to make them become real.
But is that not what dreams are? Thoughts that become real.
You can continue to let life happen to you, or you can take back control of your life, and make the decision that the right time to act is now.
It can be the most exhilarating and scary feeling, because it’s all about stepping out of your comfort zone and creating something new that you’ve never experienced before.
How else can you change your life?
If you know what to expect or how you’re going to feel then it’s not going to be a new experience.
It’s not about recreating the wheel, it’s about you creating a new way of thinking and doing things that will give you the results that you’re looking for.
If you don’t do things differently to what you’ve done in the past, then you will continue to miss the mark and not get the results you want.
But it’s in doing things differently that creates resistance and procrastination and takes you out of your comfort zone, which is why it never seems to be “the right time”
So now the pressure to start afresh at the beginning of a new year is no longer an issue, because every day is your opportunity to tweak, change or correct the path you’re on….
If not now, then when?
The truth and reality is that there is no “when”, there is only ever “now”
So are you ready to believe and trust in your ability to change your life in a way that will take you to the next level starting today?
So very true Sherry, and the belief that people have that you can't be happy all the time is just that… a Belief that they need to change if they do want to be happy and to feel fulfilled in life.
It's very easy to stay in your comfort zone, but that is what leads to dissatisfaction in the long term, the key is to break ideas and action steps down into the smallest of pieces. When you do that , anything becomes possible, but also asking for help shows strength of character not weakness. I'm glad you've found the path of happiness :)
Your article is very inspiring. The truth is, there is no better moment to feel happy. You will always be too young or too old, too tired or too busy, too sick or with too much responsibility. I would like to say that the problems that stand in our path in life help us to see that there is no path to happiness, happiness is the path. We must appreciate every moment, especially when we share it with someone dear, and remember that time does not wait for anyone. Happiness is a path, not a destiny.