Meaning of value: the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.
Humans often neglect to establish their ideals. In particular, if we lack much experience. We don’t have any red lines.
When people break us we just let it go. We forget about it on spot but afterwards we really feel the pain. We still let it happen again even though we know we shouldn’t.
After a while we are all broken because of a person or people telling or doing things we don’t want. But guess what, people will still hurt us if we don’t speak up.
When we speak up, the individual who is harming us will be afraid of being ridiculed or yelled at.
However, if we remain silent, the person will believe that everything is OK and carry on either because they believe that we don’t care or because they just are unaware that what they are doing is wrong.
I saw once a video where a teacher had a dollar bill and told the students to raise their hands if they wanted it. Everyone raised their hands.
He then wrinkled the dollar and asked again. Everyone still wanted it.
He cut off a little tiny piece of the bill and guess what. Everyone raised their hand.
Then put it on his desk and poured water on it. The students still wanted it.
Why?
The students could have used the dollar bill in the beginning, and it still had value when it was wrinkled, or when it was ripped and same thing when it was wet. They could have dried it and it would still be a dollar bill.
Same goes with us humans. We are still valuable no matter how many times we get hurt. we just have to protect ourselves to not be fully cut in half.
The more we get broken the harder it will be to get up and heal.
Sometimes the same people that hurt us will come and try to heal us and there is nothing wrong with that but there is something that they are missing.
They only tried to heal us when they noticed that we were fully broken. They wait for the damage and then come and better themselves. Then when we are all good again some of them do the same mistakes.
Now in my opinion I think it’s a good thing to be broken a couple of times. The more broken you are the more immune you will be, the stronger you will be. That is of course after you improve yourself and speak up.
So always speak up, and it might be hard sometimes. It’s easier said than done. It’s guaranteed that it will be hard but everyone starts somewhere.
And remember, always know your value before anyone else’s.