Ah, the unique snowflake syndrome and the “no one understands how hard it is to be me” story. It can really be curious to observe.
Yet it may well be why you stay stuck, blame or stay in your zone of comfort which are all signs of mind-set issues to contend with.
When a coach or someone offers you a solution to your problem, issue or symptom, you barely listen to their offer even if it would resolve your situation.
In the hope of self-preservation or clinging to the secondary gains you decline yet again a legitimate solution to your issue because you think you are a unique snowflake. It won’t work for you or at best you will say “I should think about this some more.”
So, what could this behavior means?
- Possibly you’re not willing to experience the discomfort change brings,
- You’re not ready (yet again) to do the work needed to grow right now,
- You prefer to stay in your comfort zone (the one that is filled with fear of showing up for example),
- You are in full resistance mode which keeps you with what you don’t want.
- If you’re in pain and in resistance, it means that you like to suffer for nothing.
- You may be angry at people (or at me right now, remember I'm just a messenger) who invite you to take imperfect actions towards manifesting your deep desires.
You keep your attention on the sensations you feel whenever someone of an authority figure challenges you to go beyond your normal. During that emotional charge, you feel unsafe and refuse any help because saying yes to that help would bring you out of your comfort zone even if that help would change some aspect of your life for the better.
Could you recall an unfortunate experience in your past that could trigger you this way?
An avenue you could envision is to have sessions with a practitioner in wellness. Oh, I just offered you a solution. How does that affect you in this moment?
As Leonard Cohen would sign “There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”*
Give yourself the gift of imperfection. The gift of being the best version of yourself without holding on the past traumas or failures. (Oh, that too can be changed with professional help.)
We are all here to evolve. To be better than our parents and ancestors. Do not fall on your old patterns. As Archilochus said: we do not rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training.
The unique snowflake syndrome is not your fault. It’s a learned behavior. Are you willing to change that and add loads of fun & become your BFF?
Saying: I’m in! Doing it scared is part of the solution.