Understanding Love Bombing: How to Spot the Warning Signs and Protect Yourself
Jan 29, 2023

Geni Show
Core Spirit member since Jan 17, 2023
Reading time 3 min.

As a life coach for recovery, it is crucial to be aware of the tactic of love bombing, which is commonly used by individuals who are trying to manipulate and control their target. Love bombing involves overwhelming the target with excessive attention, affection, and gifts in order to create a strong emotional bond and make them feel special.

It is important to understand that this affection and attention is often insincere and may be used by individuals with narcissistic tendencies. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I understand the impact that love bombing can have on an individual and the importance of being able to identify the warning signs.

Some warning signs to be aware of include:

  • Advancing too quickly and being overly eager to be in a relationship
  • Constantly inundating the target with attention and compliments
  • Attempting to control the target's life and make decisions for them
  • Becoming angry or upset if the target does not give them the attention they want

If you suspect that someone is love bombing you, it is essential to take time to get to know them and not rush into a relationship. Love bombing can be overwhelming and make it difficult to see the situation clearly. By taking the time to get to know someone, you can gain a deeper understanding of their true character and identify any warning signs or manipulative behaviors.

Additionally, setting boundaries is crucial when dealing with a love bomber. A love bomber may try to control your actions, decisions, and even your thoughts. By setting boundaries and communicating your needs, you are able to assert yourself and make it clear that you will not tolerate such behavior.

For example, you can set a boundary by saying something like "I appreciate the attention, but I need some space to think things through" or "I'm not comfortable with you making decisions for me, I want to be able to make my own choices."

It's also important to remember that true love takes time to develop and should never make you feel uncomfortable or uneasy. If someone is truly interested in you, they will respect your boundaries and take the time to get to know you.

However, it's important to understand that love bombing is not always done by someone with narcissistic tendencies. It can be done by anyone who wants to control and manipulate their partner. And it's not always easy to spot. The person doing it may seem very charming and loving at first, and it can be hard to tell that it's all a facade.

That's why it's important to take things slow when getting to know someone. It's okay to be excited about someone and to want to spend a lot of time with them, but it's also important to be mindful of how quickly things are moving. If someone seems to be moving too quickly or is overly eager to be in a relationship, it's a red flag.

It's also important to pay attention to how the person behaves when you don't give them the attention they want. If they become angry or upset, it's a sign that they are not truly interested in you and are only using you for their own gain.

Another red flag to watch out for is if the person tries to control your life and make decisions for you. This can include things like telling you what to wear, who to hang out with, and even what to think. It's important to remember that you are your own person and you have the right to make your own choices.

So, if you suspect that someone is love bombing you, it's important to take a step back and not rush into a relationship. It's also important to set boundaries and communicate your needs. And if the person is not willing to respect your boundaries, it's best to move on.

Leave your comments / questions

Rajveer Hagjer2023-02-02 07:09 UTC

The rationalization in your article is brilliant , thank you for sharing this, it has a lot of insight. kudos
Could I get your thoughts or another written piece on 'What can a person do when they realize their the love-bomber? What tweaks in their behavior would you suggest for them to shed the love-bombing/narcissistic aspect of themself? Thank you!

Afsheen Shah2023-01-31 11:44 UTC

Thank you for providing this valuable list of warning signs. It is important that people understand what love bombing is and how they can notice the red flags.

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