Self Esteem Versus Self Confidence

Aug 19, 2021

Self esteem is something I have struggled with my entire life. Up until recently, I have only begun to value myself more than before.

Self confidence is what others’ see. I believe I have always come across as self-confident, but this does not mean it translates on the inside. Sometimes the most self-confident can feel low self-esteem. Self esteem is how we feel on the inside. Due to my thinking biases such as personalisation and being overly self-critical this has hindered my personal growth in the past. Now I am aware of my thinking biases, and they are no longer lingering in my unconscious I can challenge them! It is not an easy feat, but it is well worth it. Again, like so many other aspects of ourselves; Awareness if Key!

There are numerous techniques to combat low self-esteem. Ask yourself to list three things that you are skilled at. Ask yourself how others who care for you would describe you; again list at least three. Make a journal of negative thoughts holding you back. Recognise these thoughts. Challenge these thoughts. Why do I think this? What evidence supports this thought? Choose affirmations to support you when you experience these thoughts.

There are many more techniques to boost self-esteem and self-confidence. If anyone wants any support in identifying what works for them, please don’t hesitate to contact me.