Healing massageNov 6, 2020
I am often asked by new clients how often they should have
massages. A legitimate question with many complicated
answers. I am going to attempt to answer this in a manner
that is understandable.
Massage in the past has been viewed as a luxury that people
cannot afford, until franchised spa’s started popping up
everywhere. By offering massages at a discounted rate
EVERYONE had the ability to get them. Until even they began
to raise their rates and making people sign memberships.
Then social medias like Groupon and Living Social popped
up making it even easier to get massages EVERYWHERE. So
people are flocking to those sites thus becoming “jumpers”.
So when I am asked this question by new clients I have to
wonder if they are just asking because they want to build a
relationship or are they asking because they are keeping
score on how many therapists give them the same response.
In order for someone to really get benefits out of massages
means work on both ends. Yours and mine, we have to build
a relationship of trust and respect. You have to be able to
relax enough to allow your mind and body to respond to
what the massage is doing for you. You have to trust me to
know that I will not hurt you too much. I know that some
places are tender and tight, and in order for your body to get
what it needs you just have to trust me. I do feel the changes
in your energy and muscle tone and I know what is hurting
you more even before you say it. Also, we there is a
connection between us for just a short period of time and I
know as a therapist I have to stay within my boundaries of
this relationship. This is where my respect for you comes
into play. Now! Let me stop here!!
I am not the “normal” massage therapist. I will crack a joke
to make you laugh or just say something to shift your
thoughts from what we are doing. When a person
concentrates too hard on trying to relax it has the adverse reaction. In your first couple of sessions I will often check in
and see how the pressure feels. Not because I want to have a
conversation, but because I want to give you the maximum
benefit from the time we have during your massage.
Also, DEEP tissue isn’t always the best for the body! I have
people who say go deeper, well let me go on record to say
that your body always tells me a different story. Going
deeper might not be what it is telling me. Again this is where
YOU have to let your mind go and trust me to do the work
needed to make your body better. Sometimes people need to
have massages twice a month, sometimes they need
massage weekly but rarely does a once a month work. If you
really want to stop hurting as much, if you want to learn
what your triggers for stress are in your body and if you
really really want to obtain the maximum benefits out of
your massage you will consider doing the following
Find the right therapist. (no it doesn’t have to be me) and
STAY with them until they no longer give you what you
need. This is a long term commitment and not to be entered
When you need more or less pressure TELL ME. I am not
afraid of you asking for something else.
Give yourself the time and energy needed to really work out
the problems that you have going on. Be honest about this.
If you want to make changes YOU have to find the time to
make them and REMEMBER this didn’t happen overnight
and it won’t be worked out in 1 massage. I am not a miracle
worker, sorry guys I know you think I am…… but…..