The Modern Man
An evolutionary perspective. A path from the modern boy to become the modern man.

At the start, I would like to mention that this is just an opinion , opinions are like assholes and everyone has one. I would also like to add I am a boy who is figuring out what kind of man he should therefore I have not shown much insight about the modern woman. Throughout centuries men have been hunters who have tried their best to kill and forge food for their partners and families. Most of the wars have been fought with men while women
helped and took care of the family. From an evolutionary perspective, man has always been ready to sacrifice for his family so their offspring and partner survive at their life’s expense.

In modern times due to industrialization and the use of GMO seeds, we have made sure that food security has increased which means that in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs we have moved up from the basic needs to higher-level needs.

So who is a man today? Probably it is a controversial opinion but a man today is more depressed, with higher suicide rates killing themselves because they just cannot take it anymore. I am not saying women have it better, I am sure
everyone has their issues but as a boy who is in the process of becoming a man I have always asked what kind of Man I am or I want to become.

Historically Men have done more cruelty- killed people, raped women, blamed strong women to be witches (that was stupid) and killed them. They also built modern society and eventually paved the way for the Woman suffrage in the 1920s
which eventually lead to the feminist movement. They forged steel and designed beautiful skyscrapers, cleaned sewages, and again went to war during WW2 where women were a major part but mostly in the clerical staff- this is not my opinion it’s just a fact.

I am not saying wars are good but they have to be fought and men have always sacrificed their life and never asked for anything in return.

Moving towards equality in today’s society has been a difficult transition. Dear reader, now you would be thinking this guy hates women and wants them to stay at home. Let me be clear
the answer is a big fat no. Any transition is difficult so it’s better to talk about it while society is moving toward equality is a noble pursuit it has confused boys growing up in today’s world where lines have been blurred.

There should be equality in society so we can move forward as a society and get better inventions. I am a big fan of female inventors who made things even when society was against them. My favorite female inventor is Marie Curie who invented the modern X-ray machine but got cancer because of it and died.
We need more people who are willing to move the needle forward while sacrificing themselves, this does not translate to everyone putting themselves through hell. Having a good life should be everyone’s right and they can live in peace and harmony.

The problem with the modern man is it has been difficult for them to navigate and find their space while they are not hunters they still want to make something of themselves. The modern man is riddled with problems too he
is just sitting passively and blaming everyone for his problems going to work, coming back, ordering uber eats, and just sitting in front of a screen and scrolling endlessness without any end in sight. Modern man has also invented the internet and most of the major tech company’s founders have been Men. I want
more woman founders but that’s a conversation for some other day. Right now we are solving the dilemma of the Modern man.

The plague of the toxic male is on the rise open the internet and you will find so many men’s rights activists or so-called ‘famous men having controversial opinions like a woman should stay at home and all the boys, yes dear reader the boys and not men
fawning over them in admiration. All the boys have forgotten how their mothers sacrificed day and night while they were pooping in their diapers. I would be rather stupid
if I was blind to the fact as to why all the boys are fanboying over these opinions because some things that these people say are true but only to some extent. Yes, the modern man has been more depressed but instead of blaming women, the government, or themselves they should take some agency into their hands and forge a new
path for themselves which is the path less traveled.

What is the path less traveled?
It’s simple- sacrifice, peace, harmony, equality, truth, and love. The day more and more boys flock towards these positive ideals instead of the game of blame roulette is the day society is going to be a little bit better.
The modern man has to realize one important thing take some agency my guy and stop blaming other people for your misery. Because misery exists in everyone’s life and everyone from the modern man to the modern woman is suffering but as Viktor Frankl said only in suffering we can find real meaning.

In the end, I would like to mention some quotes that can give some motivation to the boys so they can walk the path of the modern man:-

“In every real man a child is hidden that wants to play.”- Friedrich Nietzsche

“Let men see, let them know, a real man, who lives as he was meant to live.” — Marcus Aurelius

“A real man loves and respects his wife and is not only a good father but a man that his kids want to call ‘Daddy.’” — Frank Abagnale

“I live, like every real man, in my work.” — Max Frisch

“The stronger a man is, the more gentle he can afford to be”
― Elbert Hubbard

“Love is for real men.”
― Charles Bukowski

“A great man is different from an eminent one in that he is ready to be the servant of the society.”- B. R. Ambedkar

“There never was a truly great man that was not at the same time truly virtuous.” -Benjamin Franklin

“Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.” — Epictetus

“The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is a content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.” — Seneca