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It is important to prioritize self-care and self-love. Putting yourself first means taking the time and effort to take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This can include setting boundaries, saying no to things that do not align with your values, and making time for activities that bring you joy. Believing that you deserve to take care of yourself is also important. It is not selfish to prioritize your own needs and well-being. Remember that when you take care of yourself, you are better able to take care of others and contribute positively to the world around you.

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Asking the universe for a sign can be done through meditation, prayer, or simply stating your intention out loud or in writing. It is important to be specific about what you are asking for and to trust that the universe will provide the sign you are seeking. It is also important to be open to receiving the sign, as it may not come in the form you expect. Trust in the universe and have faith that it will guide you on your journey.

How to Ask the Universe for a Sign

Choose a time and place when you feel safe, comfortable, and undistracted. If it feels right, you can close your eyes. Take a deep breath. You might choose to put your hand on your heart or to extend your hands in front of you with your palms facing the sky. Again, this is all about what feels best for

You can ask for a specific sign, such as this:

"Dear Universe, if I'm on the right path, please send me a white feather sometime in the next 24 hours."

Or

"Dear Universe, if I'm meant to take the job, please send me a seashell in the next 24 hours."

For a more general sign, you might say:

"Dear Universe, please send me a clear, loving sign of alignment that I'm on the right path."

Or

"Dear Universe, please send a gentle, clear, loving sign in the next 24 hours that I'm meant to accept the job offer."

After you've asked, allow whatever comes forth to be, exactly as it is. Trust that whether or not you get your sign, it'll be okay. You are on the right path. The Universe is supporting you in every way possible.

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At the end of the day, if someone wants to be in your life, they will be.

Truly - they are capable, they will make the effort, they will show up. If they do not - let that be your closure.

However, you do not have to hate them. You do not have to remember their contribution to your life as anything but beautiful. Do not ruin them in your mind, do not grip until you feel resentment. Instead, love them without attachment. Love the lessons they taught you. Wish them well every single time you think about them. Miss them, but do not ache for them to come back. If the people in your life left because they were not ready to value you, or love you, or be there for you, do not wish for them back, do not ask for them to be more than they can be at the moment. Wish for them to figure themselves out. Wish for them to grow. They are on their own journey - a journey you are not a part of. And that is okay. You have to learn that that is okay.

So instead of focusing on the people who left, focus on the people in your life who have chosen to be there. Focus on the ones who stayed, on the ones who appreciate you and respect you. Focus on the people who match the love you give them, focus on the people who empower you and grow you and make your life beautiful. You are surrounded by human beings who will not shy away from the love you give. You are surrounded by human beings who know that they want you in their life, people who show you that every single day. Do not take them for granted. Do not lose touch of what you have, chasing what you no longer do.

Trust me when I say you will miss out on beautiful things if you continue to stay rooted in all of the ways you were wronged if you continue to let your past pull you from experiencing what the present has to offer you. Do not close yourself off to your potential. Instead, open yourself to the world, and allow for it to fill that space with the kinds of people, the kinds of moments, and the kinds of experiences that exhilarate you, that compel you that make you love yourself, and your life, and what you have to offer, more and more each day.

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You're here for a reason

I need you to understand that you are here for a reason. And I know that sometimes it doesn't feel that way. I know that sometimes life can be a difficult thing to navigate, it can break you down and challenge you in ways you never thought it would.

But I also know that you have the potential to do incredible things in this world. I also know that you have the capacity to overcome whatever it is that is hurting you, or confusing you, or making you doubt yourself. Please, I need you to believe in that. I need you to believe, with reckless abandon, that you are meant to be here. I need you to trust in yourself - even if you haven't figured out what inspires you deeply, even if you haven't discovered your purpose, even if you're moving forward in the simplest, smallest of ways. Just keep going. Wake up each morning, and be gentle with yourself. Do the work. Feel whatever it is that you need to feel. Tuck beautiful memories into your chest for safekeeping, revisit them whenever things get too tough.

Remind yourself of the art you want to create, of the humans you have yet to meet, of the places you have yet to see. No matter what, just continue to remind yourself that you are going to make it, that you are going to heal, that above all else you are going to survive.

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It's time to start putting yourself first and believing you deserve it.

Isn't it exhausting to always calculate your actions based on other people's opinions of you? Isn't it exhausting to always put others first while you suffer, just to please them or to show them that you care?

Doing what feels good to you doesn't mean you lack love for others around you. It simply means you also love yourself just as much. Learn how to invest in you and pursue all the things that make you happy and fulfilled. Even if it's just taking yourself on a two-day trip or saying NO to going out with friends because you prefer a quiet night at home or working less and taking some time off for your mental health.

Remember that you're just as important as those you love.

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I hope you start to believe that you are worthy of everything you want in this life, and that you are not asking for too much.

I know how difficult that can be at times because no one comes out of this life unscathed - we have all been weathered by this world in ways we did not deserve, in ways that have stuck. We have all been dug into, we have all experienced things that have darkened our hope.

I am sorry you had to experience things that wore down your strength; that you had to go through certain losses that carved into you lessons you were too young to learn, lessons that were too heavy to hold. I am sorry that somewhere along your journey, society convinced you that you were not full of purpose, that you had to want less, or settle for things outside of what you had always dared to hope for. I am sorry that at times the world made you feel like you didn't hold space within it, that you didn't deserve to be here, or to be loved, or to be the kind of human being who achieves profound and beautiful things. I am sorry that you had to endure things at the hands of love that made you stop believing in its goodness, that made you stop believing in just how possible it was for you to find something real, and pointed, and full in depth in this generation. I am sorry that somewhere along your journey, you were convinced that you could not dream the way you wanted to dream, that you could not strive to experience all of the beauty this life has to offer.

And I know that sometimes because of all that you have been through, you doubt the part of yourself that knows there is more out there for you. But you have to trust it.

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I cannot tell you what the future will look like, but I can tell you that as long as you are breathing you belong in this world. And because you belong in this world, there will be places within it that welcome you.

Perhaps it might not be with the group or position you thought you would be in, but it will be just for you. Maybe you have longed to be a part of a community, but you actually feel called to start one yourself. Perhaps you don't feel like you belong in your family, but you were meant to be family to someone else. This does not mean that you have to leave every relationship behind and that there is no room for things to be healed in time, but it does mean that you are not limited to feeling that you don't belong.

Even if you are landlocked, and you can't travel the way you want to. Even if you don't feel like you don't have the personality to keep up with others, the more you begin to choose to bravely keep your eyes open, the more you will begin to see: all around you, there are places for you to belong, and help others belong, too.

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7 TYPES OF NEGATIVITY TO KILL

1. PERFECTIONISM
Trying to achieve something that's literally unattainable will only result in you feeling "less than".

2. JUDGEMENT OVER YOURSELF AND OTHERS
When you are judgemental, you are only focusing on the negative qualities in yourself and others.

3. SELF-DOUBT
Self-doubt is a weed that will take over your life if you don't kill it at the root.

4. ASSUMING THE WORST WILL HAPPEN
If you never think things will be better, they won't be. This removes hope.

5. WORRY
Worrying changes nothing except your health and mental state.

6. COMPLAINING
When you focus on the negative things, you are really setting yourself up for never being content or happy.

7. TRYING TO CONTROL EVERYTHING
You can't control everything and when you try and inevitably fail, you will only blame yourself.

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Seven things most people take a lifetime to learn

• Feeling sad after making a decision doesn't mean it was
the wrong decision.

• Life is not tiring. Wanting life to be a certain way but not having the confidence to make it that way, is tiring.

• Self-awareness is realizing that there is no opponent - you're fighting against yourself.

• Sometimes saying 'goodbye' doesn't mean you don't love something, it just means you love yourself too.

• That lesson will repeat itself until you learn it.

• If you keep one hand on your past and one hand on your future you'll never have either. To embrace tomorrow, you must let go of yesterday.

• The world starts and ends entirely inside your mind. No matter where you end up, no matter how rich, or successful you become, you won't enjoy any of it if you get there at the expense of your mental health.

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Small tips to help you when life gets tough!

1. Don't pay too much attention to the way you feel. Feelings change throughout the day and are unreliable. Don't let them rule your life, or interfere with your goals.

2. Decide not to worry as it tends to make things worse. If you focus on your worries it will drain your energy - and often what we're dreading doesn't happen anyway.

3. Cut the internal commentary. Stop telling yourself that things are going to fall apart, or your efforts won't succeed, or you won't be popular. Keep trying, moving forwards, and getting on with life.

4. Stop being self-critical. You need to be your own cheerleader and your biggest fan in life. Note progress, perseverance, attitude and inner strength. Be affirming, kind, believing and coach towards success.

5. Stop feeling guilty. Feeling guilty changes nothing. You are going to make mistakes. Accept you aren't perfect - then get up and try again.

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"Doing your best" means "doing what you can without harming your mental and physical health" not "doing something with no regards for your own limits."

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Mental toughness is often portrayed as determination and persistence, but it can also be flexibility and adaptability.

• I can be happy anywhere.

• I can work with what I have.

• I can have a good day with anyone.

You are tough when your mood is not dependent on your conditions.

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Overcoming Fear

1. Increase your awareness. The first thing to do is to recognize how much they're interfering with your daily life, and holding you back from being happy and free.

2. Try to be specific. What is it that worries you about the situation? What is the one thing that terrifies you most?

3. What do you need? Reassurance, support, or a friend by your side? Or perhaps you need to learn and acquire new skills? Once you know what you need you can seek out that help.

4. Try journaling. Writing down your different fears can be a source of release - so you don't feel so powerless, or trapped and overwhelmed. Also, writing things down often helps clear our minds, so our thinking's more rational and less emotional.

5. Talk to someone. It's often very damaging to bottle things inside. So try and find a friend who you know will understand. Also, it's hard to keep fighting when you feel you're alone.

6. Arrange to work with a counselor. A counselor is trained to help you uncover the roots, and to teach you the skills that you need to cope with fear.

7. Do it afraid. By choosing to take action and face your different fears you will undermine their power, and the hold they have on you.

8. Flip the fear around. When your mind is assaulted by a sense of fear and dread - turn the situation around and imagine things going well ... Then, think of how you'll feel if you don't give in to fear.

9. Look for a role model. We know that there are others who also live with fear - yet they refuse to give in, and they choose to push through fear. Watch and learn from their example - and do the same things, too.

10. Normalise failure. None of us is perfect, or always confident. We all make mistakes, and we all get it wrong. But trying leads to progress and change over time. Understand you're on a journey; be patient with yourself.

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How to Feel More Contented with your Life

1. Take a moment to be grateful for something.

What in your life is good, or makes you happy? Even if everything seems to suck, there must be at least one good thing. Find something, and begin by being grateful for that.

2. Catch yourself thinking, “This sucks."

It's amazing how often people think this thought. It might be in different words, but if you catch yourself going down that road, stop and try and reverse the thinking. Find a way to see something good or beneficial in the crummy situation.

3. Find the little things that bring you joy.

Find the simple things that make you happy, and focus on those rather than on what is wrong, or what you don't have.

4. Identify things about yourself that you're actually happy with.

We tend to criticize and put ourselves down. Try and break that habit by asking yourself, "What do I do right? What am I good at? Make a list, and keep adding to every day. Then, start to focus on those things rather than on the negatives.

5. Use the same approach with others in your life.

Instead of attacking them, or focusing on their flaws and shortcomings, ask yourself, "What is good about this person? What do I like about them?"

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How to express tenderness towards yourself:

• treat mundane activities like grocery shopping as adventures
• make playlists for every feeling you can feel
• give yourself quiet days to read and pass time slowly
• keep a journal, a non-performative place to express yourself
• reduce your screen time; use your screens mostly for inspiration
• create more than you consume
• have a place where you can run free and feel the wind rushing
• do things that make you happy even if they seem childish

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no matter what happens, you'll grow and change as a person. every obstacle, every rejection, and failure puts you in the position to learn from it - whether by improving certain aspects of your work ethic, discipline, and priorities or by realizing that some paths were simply not meant for you. fear of failure will hold you back so much and will close so many doors for you that failure itself never could.

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GET TO KNOW YOURSELF - PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT ♡

1. Write 3 things you like about your appearance

2. What is your favorite thing about your personality?

3. What do you think your biggest weakness is? How can you work on improving this?

4. Who are you most grateful for having in your life?

5. Is there something you keep ruminating about that happened a long time ago?

6. How would your best friend describe you?

7. I am happiest when...

8. What have you achieved that you are proud of?

9. I feel peaceful when...

10. What is unique about your personality?

11. What goals are you working towards?

12. What are things that you need to stop doing that are making you unhappy?

13. What is your favorite thing to do to treat yourself?

14. When do you feel most confident?

15. What does your family love about you?

16. What is the last charitable thing you have done? If it was a long time ago, start now!

17. What parts of your life are you happy with?

18. How would your life change if you were confident?

19. Why do you think self-worth is important?

20. What is something you need to forgive yourself for?

21. What was the happiest time of your life? Why?

22. What traits do you admire in someone?

23. What parts of your life would you like to work on?

24. When was the last time you were kind to a stranger?

25. What habit do you need to stop?

26. What habit do you want to start for self-love?

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It eventually gets better, without any sort of explanation; one day you just realize that you're no longer upset. You're no longer mad, hurt, or bothered by the things that took so much of your energy and thoughts.

You will find yourself in a peaceful place and enjoy that feeling.

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How To Prioritize Your Own Mental Health

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