Judith Anderson

The loss of a loved one is felt across the community.

It's a loss primarily to the family but it is felt my friends nieghbors, work colleages, church family, distance relatives, business relations, all struggle to some degree with grief.

With good intentions they want to express their feelings of respect of sorrow and affection.

Sadly those expressions can sometimes say something that hits a family with negative impact without intention.

I recall years ago, attending a service in which i heard a neighbor say "I know how you feel".

The family member responded immediatly with "You CANNOT know how I feel!"

The neighbor tried to explain that she was referring to her own many losses, which fell on deaf ears.

She left the gathering quickly with tears in her eyes, she had meant no harm.

After all the business and grieving functions come to a close.

You may think back on those recieved cracks and upon reflection realize that grief is hard for all of us.

No one had set out to hurt feelings and it's time to let go of the percieved insults and thoughtless comments.

Forgivenss can ease your stress and calm frazzled nerves.

We all grieve together loveing the one that is now gone and realize that no one meant fo hurt you.

With the passing of a loved one, youe emotions can feel scattered and out of control.

You can feel over powered, confused, and very alone.

Your response can leave you with the desire to be with people and then anther day you may want to be alone wrapped in a blanket.

Remember your grief is ver personal and private.

To find solace, be patient with yourself honor your needs as you adjust to this new life.

Allow your self time to sort through all these thoughts and feelings.

Patience is your friend.

Rmember your friends and loved ones are loveing you and wishing you well.

When we lose someone we love we are surrounded by loved ones, neighbors and friend. Decisions to be made about services what to do what not to do. There are fears tears hugs, food love and support. Then things calm down relatives and friends return to their homes. All the activities fade away and you find yourself alone and aware that you need to create a new life without that special someone. You may ache as you come to terms of facing a new existance it hurts it's scary, it's lonely. Take Heart you don't have to be alone there is help understanding and support.

You can look to your Spirital family these are the people who share your faith and may attend the same place of worship. You can reach out to your priest, rabbi, paster or chaplin for spiritial support. Another great option for your healing journey can be speaking to a beverement counselor. Grief manifests in many unexpected ways.You may experience new and/or different thoughts and emotions. It can be stressful, uncomfortable, enraging, humilitaing, and confusing. Finding the right support can truly ease your healing experience.

My journey has brought me into the field of grief and I have made it my mission to connection and support those struggle and year for healing. My name is Judith and I would love to help guide you on your healing journey.